"How can I describe the power of love? Everything is insignificant before it."
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and this is my reply upon his story :
email starts :
salamun'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,
my beloved companion of the cave ;)
i present to you again, anfal:63 for the story..jazakallahu wa khairan kathira ;)
time also heals, that is why among all the thing in the world, time is the most precious. lets pray may our time will be fullfill with Hiss blessings, rahmat and sakeenah ;) allahumma ameen..
and about greatest love my dear, i have readh this book : TENTANG CINTA by Pahrol Mohd Juoi.(its in Malay) - trans : About Love by Pahrol Mohd Juoi. from the book, I learned that you have to love yourself, God, and only then can you genuinely love another human being. Males' usual answer: fair, nice body, saint in the kitchen,etc... Females' usual answer: tall, dark, handsome, and rich... but I've always stick to my answer which is I want someone who loves ALLAH more than life and – for similarities sake – loves music) Of course, you've heard of all these before. And yes, your 'mind' or akal says that you do love ALLAH but to what extent to you understand the meaning of it? I admit I used to not understand it much either before, but now I do...alhamdulillah ;)
Why do we have this 'ideal' idea? It is because it's only normal or fitrah for human beings to want only the most beautiful and the best there is. And when you think of it…who or what is more perfect than the creator of perfection Himself? True? Therefore it is only logical for you to love ALLAH first and foremost.
second of all, I learned exactly WHAT love is. All those times I thought I was 'in love' are not really love. That's lust, infatuation. Real love is when your partner has the whole intention of taking you as his or her bride or groom. (Remember, this is what I believe in now, but I'm not against those who say they are in love. I'll support you my friend ;)) If a person really loves you then s/he should only think of you as his/her life partner. Think about it. If the thought of getting married is too scary or perhaps too soon for you, then the fact is, it IS too soon for you to BE in a relationship. Because if you love someone you want to hold on to that person forever and you can't bear the thought of breaking up because you don't want to hurt the person you 'love'. It all makes sense. But of course, we can only plan, but the rest is in God's hands whether things will work out or not. But the point is, REAL love must be parallel with the INTENTION or niyyat of getting married.
Plus, I also learned that love is a verb. If a person says s/he doesn't have money, is stupid, but has all the love in the world for you, please, don't believe him/her. If someone really loves you, that person would only want the best life for you and to have that, he or she needs a good job and in order to have THAT he or she needs to at least be hardworking in his or her studies. It's simple, right?
There are actually lots more that I learned from the book but then I'm afraid I'll get sued for copyright issues if I give you more (read between the lines: I'm lazy :p) But some of it such as HOW to be in love, how to have CLASS while in love and also about the perfect partner.
As the book says, there's no such thing as a perfect partner. If you are looking for perfect, you'll get disappointed because where can a person go after being 'perfect'. Instead, look for potential. Does he or she have the potential to be a good (not perfect) partner after marriage? Some may say that it's hard to tell. Actually it is not. A good person is easy to detect by his actions. A diamond is wrapped beautifully than a rock found by road, no? Only a good person can tell another good person. So, the conclusion is, for me to find that almost-perfect partner, I need to be one myself. InshaAllah I promise I'll be as good a person possible. And no, I won't do it just to find 'that guy' but to gain God's love. Only then can I start appreciate another human's love.
But one of the most important things I got from this book that I'll bring till the day I die is the Prophet PBUH once said,
"Islam started as being different and will end being different too. Thus, blessed are those who are different, who uphold my Sunnah when others are ruining it."
alhamdulillah 'ala kulli hal, i think i have found a right man ;)...it is in his willingness to see a future with me so that we can help each other nurture our love to Allah inshaAllah...;)
and then he response this to me :
email starts :
"I am happiest since having come accross Nur"
وأما بنعمة ربك فحدث
and this is my reply (10000 words and still counting ;)) :
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