Monday, April 28, 2008

On the Eve of HER Marriage

One of the most famous and most beautiful of these texts was recorded by `Abd al-Malik ibn `Umayr al-Qurashi, who was one of the outstanding scholars of the second century AH. He quotes the words of advice given by Umamah bint al-Harith, one of the most eloquent and learned women, who was possessed of wisdom and great maturity, to her daughter on the eve of her marriage. These beautiful words deserve to be inscribed in golden ink.

`Abd al-Malik said: "When `Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn `Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother Umamah came in to her, to advise her, and said:

"O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you possess these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise."

"O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father's wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them."

"O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you."

Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you.

"The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one's husband pleases Allah."

"The third and fourth of them are: make sure that you smell good and look good; he should not see anything ugly in you, and he should not smell anything but a pleasant smell from you. Kohl is the best kind of beautification to be found, and water is better than the rarest perfume."

"The fifth and the sixth of them are: prepare his food on time, and keep quiet when he is asleep, for raging hunger is like a burning flame, and disturbing his sleep will make him angry."

"The seventh and eighth of them are: take care of his servants (or employees) and children, and take care of his wealth, for taking care of his wealth shows that you appreciate him, and taking care of his children and servants shows good management."

"The ninth and tenth of them are: never disclose any of his secrets, and never disobey any of his orders, for if you disclose any of his secrets you will never feel safe from his possible betrayal, and if you disobey him, his heart will be filled with hatred towards you."

"Be careful, O my daughter, of showing joy in front of him when he is upset, and do not show sorrow in front of him when he is happy, because the former shows a lack of judgement, whilst the latter will make him unhappy."

"Show him as much honour and respect as you can, and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation."

"Know, O my daughter, that you will not achieve what you would like to until you put his pleasure before your own, and his wishes before yours, in whatever you like and dislike. And may Allah (SWT) choose what is best for you and protect you."

then she was taken to her husband, and the marriage was a great success; she gave birth to kings who ruled after him.

This advice clearly included everything that one could think of as regards the good manners that a young girl needs to know about in order to treat her husband properly and be a suitable companion for him. The words of this wise mother deserve to be taken as the standard for every young girl who is about to get married. ;)

Thursday, April 24, 2008

Hopeful vs Realistic?

this conversation took place in cyberspace few hours back ;)

The question that comes to mind is where does one draw the line between being hopeful versus being realistic? It baffles me everytime once, especially when it comes to issues of marriage.

It is always good idea to put conditions in our du'aas but I always thought the opposite. I knew you should always ask for the best, but also, that your du'aas should be general because Allah (SWT) Knows what is best for you.

From my experience, i've learnt to add such conditions (like, 'if such and such thing is best for me') in all my du'aa's ... because at times in the past i have begged Allaah subhanahu wa ta'aala for things saying that please grant me this and make it good for me, in reality, I had already decided in my mind that I wanted that and nothing else, that is, I was not open to the idea that something else might be good for me though I might not see how, at that point in time.

Anyway , I ended up being granted what i asked for, and the period that followed was perhaps among the most stressful of my life ... wa lillahil hamd, and I blame only myself for what happened. Allaah, my Most Rahman Rabb, soon changed my situation to something that I initially did not want but Alhamdulillah it has led to tons of khair for me since .. wa lillahil hamd 'adada khalqihi wa rida nafsihi wa zenata 'arshihi wa midaada kalimaatih.

Ever since I have striven to make du'aa by adding the condition that I be granted something if it is best for me, as only Allaah knows what is truly best for us. I've been experiencing the same thing recently: where you ask for something that is good, but it ends up being a huge test for you.

Remember the power of the du’aa. There is an ocean of billions upon billions of people out there. Wa Allahul Khalaq, He Ta'ala, can specifically lead that "sahabi" or close to "sahabi" like brother to your doorstep if you have genuine, sincere yaqeen in your du’aa and we have to ask ourselves "where's our HOPE in Allah Azza wa Jal?"

Du'aa is extremely powerful. We really underestimate it. As long as we have doubts, (Oh...Okay ya Rabb Allahumma yrizuqna kaza wa kaza, (*but then in the back of your mind your like, hmmm I can't possibly see how I'll ever find someone like this person I make du’aa about...) Then khalas, the du’aa is nothing but uttered words. But if one really EXPECTS that Allahul Rabbul ‘alameen will grant you that person, and reflect on Allah's miraculous Sublimity, and ultimate Powers, then- inshaAllah it will happen! You'll see! Believe me one can reach that level inshaAllah with the help of Allah. It's a matter taking the means, and having a lot of tawwakul (which takes a lot of du’aa to have as well- blind faith and trust in Allahu Ta'ala).

I think if we try to do it ourselves, and actually "BE" the one you want your spouse to be, and strive in that, then Allah Kareem-insha Allah Allah Azza wa Jal, will grant you who you wish!

But I'd also like to add one more thing, it takes a lot of sabr, and wisdom, and really pure intentions,(i.e marrying for the correct reasons), in order to really expect Allah Azza wa Jal to carry you along the way, to the right person.

I think when looking for a spouse and considering their characteristics: deen, akhlaaq, adaab, upbringing, family, etc... You should put ur utmost trust in Allah (SWT).... Believe in the Creator and make sincere du'aa that your spouse will compliment you and help increase in your Eman.... There will be tests in marriage, no doubt... be prepared.... it is definitely a rollar-coaster ride!!!

With ups and downs.... Honestly, finding a spouse is just the beginning of a very, long journey.. ;)

Thus, this particular ayah had new meaning in my life:

وَ نَبْلوكُم بِالشَّرِّ وَ الْخَيرِ فِتْنَة وَ إلينا تُرجَعُون

"Every soul shall have a taste of death: and We test you by evil and by good by way of trial. to Us must ye return"

[Suratu Anbiya':35]

رَبَّنَا ظَلَمْنَا أَنفُسَنَا وَإِن لَّمْ تَغْفِرْ لَنَا وَتَرْحَمْنَا لَنَكُونَنَّ مِنَ الْخَاسِرِين
"Our Lord! We have wronged our own souls: If thou forgive us not and bestow not upon us Thy Mercy, we shall certainly be lost."
( Suratu A'araf :23)

والله علم

May Allah (SWT) make things easy for you my sister in Islam,and make your future marriage pave a road to Jannat al Firdaws for you and your future hubby...Allahumma aameen ;)

ps : and one more word :
patience ;)

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

A Proposal

I once had a vivid dream of finding a spouse,
We had many children and a perfect Islamic house.
I dreamt and prayed and made dua every day,
I made dua' until i didn't know what was left to say.

This dream I thought could not have ended there,
To search for this dream I had to search everywhere.
I searched until I thought it was all in vain,
But was my search truly done in Allah's name?

Then one day in a way that no one could suspect,
My dream came to my door in a way most direct.
I was drawn to them in a way that can not be described,
Every time I heard more I found my love intensified.

I thought to myself, is this what is best or not?
This I could never answer no matter how much I thought.
Until I remembered the only One who would know,
I turned in prayer, opened my heart and let my tears go.

I sought my answer from Him in the middle of the night,
For no human could have ever rescued me from my plight.
Now my answer laid there for me in plain sight,
I had no question or doubt if the answer was right.

With pure tawakkul in Allah and I turned and said,
With you I wish to be until the day I meet my deathbed.

A Silent Prayer to Allah

O Allah! Please grant me one
Who will be the garment for my soul
Who will satisfy half of my deen
And in doing so make me whole

Make him righteous and on your path
In all he'll do and say
And sprinkle water on me at Fajr
Reminding me to pray

May he earn from halal sources
And spend within his means
May he seek Allah's guidance always
To fulfill all his dreams

May he always refer to Qur'an
and the Sunnah as his moral guide
May he thank and appreciate Allah
For the woman at his side

May he be conscious of his anger
And often fast and pray
Be charitable and sensitive
In every possible way

May he honor and protect me
And guide me in this life
And please Allah! Make me worthy
to be his loving wife

And finally, O Allah!
Make him abundant in love and laughter
In taqwa and sincerity
In striving for the hereafter


Tuesday, April 22, 2008

The Full Sermon of Tariq ibn Ziyad

"Oh my warriors, whither would you flee? Behind you is the sea, before you, the enemy. You have left now only the hope of your courage and your constancy. Remember that in this country you are more unfortunate than the orphan seated at the table of the avaricious master. Your enemy is before you, protected by an innumerable army; he has men in abundance, but vou, as your only aid, have your own swords, and, as your only chance for life, such chance as you can snatch from the hands of your enemy. If the absolute want to which you are reduced is prolonged ever so little, if you delay to seize immediate success, your good fortune will vanish, and your enemies, whom your very presence has filled with fear, will take courage. Put far from you the disgrace from which you flee in dreams, and attack this monarch who has left his strongly fortified city to meet you. Here is a splendid opportunity to defeat him, if you will consent to expose yourselves freelv to death. Do not believe that I desire to incite you to face dangers which I shall refuse to share with you. In the attack I myself will be in the fore, where the chance of life is always least. Remember that if you suffer a few moments in patience, you will afterward enjoy supreme delight. Do not imagine that your fate can be separated from mine, and rest assured that if you fall, I shall perish with you, or avenge you. You have heard that in this country there are a large number of ravishingly beautiful Greek maidens, their graceful forms are draped in sumptuous gowns on which gleam pearls, coral, and purest gold, and they live in the palaces of royal kings. The Commander of True Believers, Alwalid, son of Abdalmelik, has chosen you for this attack from among all his Arab warriors; and he promises that you shall become his comrades and shall hold the rank of kings in this country. Such is his confidence in your intrepidity. The one fruit which he desires to obtain from your bravery is that the word of God shall be exalted in this country, and that the true religion shall be established here. The spoils will belong to yourselves. Remember that I place myself in the front of this glorious charge which I exhort you to make. At the moment when the two armies meet hand to hand, you will see me, never doubt it, seeking out this Roderick, tyrant of his people, challenging him to combat, if God is willing. If I perish after this, I will have had at least the satisfaction of delivering you, and you will easily find among you an experienced hero, to whom you can confidently give the task of directing you. But should I fall before I reach to Roderick, redouble your ardor, force yourselves to the attack and achieve the conquest of this country, in depriving him of life. With him dead, his soldiers will no longer defy you."

About A Pencil

This is a story carried by the Wind, from a land seasons away from us. Here, the leaves are changing their colors into natural collages filled with yellow, red, brown and orange shades. The Wind, as faithful as ever, told me a moving story to compliment the picturesque evening. As beautiful as it may appears, the fact remains that the trees will be left with nothing except for their barren branches and their faithful trunks to face the cold and unforgiving winter.

An old woman sat with his grandson underneath the shade of a patio, in the middle of a garden filled with flowers. The Sun bathe the Earth with a graceful amount of heat, and gave life to seedlings. The smell of spring filled the air as dandelions merrily let go off their seedlings to travel the world, while tulips shared their light flowery scent, that wafted in the warm and calm afternoon.

The Wind, swirled and drifted in the comfort of Spring: when suddenly it caught sight of the woman and her grandson. Out of its insatiable curiosity, the Wind gently glides and swirled near both of them. The woman was deep in thought, as she watched over her grandson. The boy was busy scribbling on papers, using crayons, pencils and coal sticks, and drew beautiful images of the Spring.

The woman suddenly stood up and picked up a pencil from the scattered stationeries, strewn across the table. She said,

"My dear, learn and be just like this pencil..."

The boy, clueless, and obviously unaware of any significance in the pencil held by his grandmother, asked with a genuine sense of curiosity...The kind of curiosity that reflected innocence rather than insipidity... She ran her fingers through the boy's silky hair, and said,

" My child, the pencil writes whatever the writer desires. Never will it go against the writer's will. This does not mean that it has no will of its own, but when it is needed to perfect a wishful thought, it'll be there, just like a guardian angel...

"The pencil never complains of long hours that it took each time the writer used him to write. It will endure the pain of being grinded against the surface of the paper. The tip of the pencil snapped, and at times, became blunt because of the amount of labor that he took. The toil and hardships represent his purpose in life.

" Then came the sharpening process. The gruesome sharpening, though painful, will eventually make him sharp again. It's better to be useful and die in the end, rather than living without serving a purpose. Remember my child, success can only be achieved with undying perseverance and hard work. Hard work requires sacrifices,then only you can truly savor the sweetness of success. If you are advantaged by means of cutting corners and the presence of sheer luck, all will be lost because what you have in your hands will be void of any soul. They will cease to be called success, rather they should be called "loots".

"A pencil is never afraid to admit its mistake. It even allows the mistake to be erased from the surface of the paper,even if the error was solely caused by the blatant ignorance of the writer, a pencil never protest should any correction needs to be done. Be as forgiving as a pencil, my child. Life is too short to harbor hatred and spite... They will slowly kill you from within. To err is human, but to forgive is divine..."

The old woman then placed the pencil, and placed in on the palm of the little child, as she folded his chubby fingers, so as to wrap the pencil in his tiny little hands.

"...write all you want child. Never be afraid of what the world might think of you because what you believe is what you are within. If you are to make a mistake or you made an error in judgment, just bear in mind that ALLAH is all forgiving and all benevolent. There's always space for us to better our status as HIS servant.

Time will teach you a lot of things, but time, must be seized when it comes. Do not force the time on you, cause you might loose your youth in pursuit of something that you should not waste your effort on. Life will put every rightful things in their own rightful places.

With little things that we have, we can change the world. What you write, might move mountains, free slaves, and even change the world. But remember, have faith and do everything in the name of ALLAH. Learn from the pencil, as it is the smallest thing that can make you believe..."

Monday, April 21, 2008

Tariq ibn Ziyad

On Sat, Apr 19, 2008 at 7:58 PM, Dr. Syed Bashir Ahmad <********> wrote:

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركات

When Muslims landed at the shores of Andalusia / Spain under the command of Tariq bin Ziyad, he ordered them to burn all their boats. After that he gave the Sermon (please google for details)............ The most important were his historical words meaning that after having burnt your boats, the sea is behind you and the enemy is in front of you, you have no option but only to win. AlHamdulillah they fought with the same vigour and sioncerity of NUR and triumphed. That was the beginning of a great historical era .........................

I want you to think of an art work (not urgent) about the concept of burning the boats (and after you google

okay, this short message was sent by my other half yesterday, and as per request, this is something i can come up with alhamdulillah ;)

and then he replied me with these :

On Sun, Apr 20, 2008 at 8:47 PM, Dr. Syed Bashir Ahmad <********> wrote:
Actually the fully sermon is beautiful. That was how those simple people with hardly any resources spread Islam from Spain to Sulawasi...

-end of mail-

Truth is, i found someone who stands out in the midst of this man populated planet. My dear Bashir, you know that i will do my best to be the one for you right? It will be a journey, and i promise you an exciting one!

أَحَبَّكَ الَّذِي أّحْبَبْتَنِي لَهُ

May He for Whose sake you love me, love you too

[ Abu Dawud ]

as you said to me my dear, let's work on that front. Don't worry, be happy...... Boats have been burnt :)

ps : i will post the full sermon انشاءالله ;-)

Saturday, April 19, 2008

Together We Will

Together we will raise a son like Khalid ibn Waleed RA,
Together we will raise a daughter like Khadija bint Khuwaylid RA,
Together we will build a strong family,
Together we will live happily,
Together we will explore Allah’s land,
Together we will read Quran,
Together we will dedicate our lives for Islam,
Together we will surpass rough journey ahead,
Together we will eat burned bread,
Together we will fulfill our dreams,
Together we will enjoy the fresh air by a stream,
Together we will take care of each other,
Together we will share joys and sorrows of one another,
Together we will listen to Mishary Rasheed’s nasheed.
Together we will wake up for Tahajjud,
Together we will take a moonlight walk,
Together we will be longing for the moment…
…until we meet again in Jannah and be together forever…

Monday, April 7, 2008

Du'aa Istikharah

bismillahi walhamdulillahi 'alaahi rasulillah
astaghfirullah min qillati sidq bi qauli astaghfirullah. ..

اللَّهمَّ إنِّي أستَخيرك بعلمكَ، و أستقدرك بقُدرتك، و أسْألك مِن فضلك العظيم،
فإنّك تَقْدر و لا أقْدِر، و تعلم و لا أعلم، و أنت علاَّمُ الغُيوب.
اللَّهمَّ إنْ كنتَ تعلم أنَّ هذا الأمْرِ خيرٌ لي في ديْني و معَاشي و عاقِبة أمري
– او قال عاجِل أمري و آجِله –
فاقْدِرْهُ لي و يسِّرْه لي ثمَّ بارِك لي فِيه،
و إن كنتَ تعلم أنَّ هذا الأمرِ شرٌّ لي في دِيني و معآشِي و عاقبةِ أمْرِي
– او قال في عاجِل أمرِي و آجِله –

Oh Allah! We seek Your guidance by virtue of Your knowledge, and we seek ability by virtue of Your power, and we ask You of Your great bounty. You have power; we have none. And You know; we know not. You are the Knower of hidden things.

Oh Allah! If in Your knowledge this matter is good for our religion, our livelihood and our affairs, immediate and in the future, then ordain it for us, make it easy for us, and bless it for us. And if in Your knowledge this matter is bad for our religion, our livelihood and our affairs, immediate and in the future, then turn it away from us, and turn us away from it. And ordain for us the good wherever it may be, and make us content with it..

istajib du'aa ana ya Allah..
allahumma ameen..

آمين يا إله العالمين

Sunday, April 6, 2008

Ketika Tangan dan Kaki Berkata

Ketika Tangan dan Kaki Berkata

Lirik : Taufiq Ismail
Lagu : Chrisye

Akan datang hari mulut dikunci
Kata tak ada lagi
Akan tiba masa tak ada suara
Dari mulut kita
Berkata tangan kita
Tentang apa yang dilakukannya
Berkata kaki kita
Kemana saja dia melangkahnya
Tidak tahu kita bila harinya
Tanggung jawab tiba
Tangan kami
Kaki kami
Mulut kami
Mata hati kami
Di jalan cahaya.... sempurna
Mohon karunia
Kepada kami
HambaMu yang hina

Saturday, April 5, 2008

This Inconsolable Heart

Bismillahi walhamdulillahi 'alaa rasulillah..

O Allah.... Grant me serenity
to pray for Your forgiveness
Grant me strength
to heal my broken heart
Grant me patience
to wait for Your guidance
Grant me courage
to speak out and stand for the truth
Grant me peace
to think of the best solution and...
Grant me 'Redha'
to open-heartedly accept my fate

O Allah... Please don't leave your servant
at the crossroads
Tearing apart between
Obedience and ambition

O Allah... Please don't desert me in nowhere
In seeking for Your Satisfaction
In my effort to be the best daughter of my parents

O Allah...Please don't discard me
from Your Blessings
In this journey of life
Endeavoring hardships to reach Your Jannah

O Allah...
This pain inside is unbearable
This grief inside is inconsolable
This broken heart is incurable

But Allah...
I'm holding tighter to my faith
Steadfastly praying to change my fate

For I believe
In Your Mercy and Love
For I believe
In Your Grace and Care
To cure
This inconsolable heart


Wednesday, April 2, 2008


okay, this quoted story was sent to me today by the man who i'd like to call him "The Man Who Threw His Heart Away" - inshaAllah will be love of my life ;)

"How can I describe the power of love? Everything is insignificant before it."

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, and all of the others include Love.

One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all repaired their boats and left. Love was the only one who stayed. Love wanted to persevere until the last possible moment. When the island was almost sinking, Love decided to ask for help.

Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat. Love said, "Richness, can you take me with you?" Richness answered, "No I can't. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place for you here."

Love decided to ask Vanity, who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel, "Vanity, please help me!" "I can't help you, Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat," Vanity answered.

Sadness was close by so Love asked for help, "Sadness let me go with you." "Oh...Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!" Happiness passed by Love too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her!

Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come Love, I will take you." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that he even forgot to ask the elder her name.

When they arrived at dry land, the elder went her own way. Love realizing how much he owed the elder, asked Knowledge, another elder, "Who helped me?"

"It was Time", Knowledge answered.

"Time?" asked Love. "But why did Time help me?"

Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, "Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."

*********** *********** *********** ***********

and this is my reply upon his story :

email starts :

salamun'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,

my beloved companion of the cave ;)

i present to you again, anfal:63 for the story..jazakallahu wa khairan kathira ;)

time also heals, that is why among all the thing in the world, time is the most precious. lets pray may our time will be fullfill with Hiss blessings, rahmat and sakeenah ;) allahumma ameen..

and about greatest love my dear, i have readh this book :
TENTANG CINTA by Pahrol Mohd Juoi.(its in Malay) - trans : About Love by Pahrol Mohd Juoi. from the book, I learned that you have to love yourself, God, and only then can you genuinely love another human being. Males' usual answer: fair, nice body, saint in the kitchen,etc... Females' usual answer: tall, dark, handsome, and rich... but I've always stick to my answer which is I want someone who loves ALLAH more than life and – for similarities sake – loves music) Of course, you've heard of all these before. And yes, your 'mind' or akal says that you do love ALLAH but to what extent to you understand the meaning of it? I admit I used to not understand it much either before, but now I do...alhamdulillah ;)

Why do we have this 'ideal' idea? It is because it's only normal or fitrah for human beings to want only the most beautiful and the best there is. And when you think of it…who or what is more perfect than the creator of perfection Himself? True? Therefore it is only logical for you to love ALLAH first and foremost.

second of all, I learned exactly WHAT love is. All those times I thought I was 'in love' are not really love. That's lust, infatuation. Real love is when your partner has the whole intention of taking you as his or her bride or groom. (Remember, this is what I believe in now, but I'm not against those who say they are in love. I'll support you my friend ;)) If a person really loves you then s/he should only think of you as his/her life partner. Think about it. If the thought of getting married is too scary or perhaps too soon for you, then the fact is, it IS too soon for you to BE in a relationship. Because if you love someone you want to hold on to that person forever and you can't bear the thought of breaking up because you don't want to hurt the person you 'love'. It all makes sense. But of course, we can only plan, but the rest is in God's hands whether things will work out or not. But the point is, REAL love must be parallel with the INTENTION or niyyat of getting married.

Plus, I also learned that love is a verb. If a person says s/he doesn't have money, is stupid, but has all the love in the world for you, please, don't believe him/her. If someone really loves you, that person would only want the best life for you and to have that, he or she needs a good job and in order to have THAT he or she needs to at least be hardworking in his or her studies. It's simple, right?

There are actually lots more that I learned from the book but then I'm afraid I'll get sued for copyright issues if I give you more (read between the lines: I'm lazy :p) But some of it such as HOW to be in love, how to have CLASS while in love and also about the perfect partner.

As the book says, there's no such thing as a perfect partner. If you are looking for perfect, you'll get disappointed because where can a person go after being 'perfect'. Instead, look for potential. Does he or she have the potential to be a good (not perfect) partner after marriage? Some may say that it's hard to tell. Actually it is not. A good person is easy to detect by his actions. A diamond is wrapped beautifully than a rock found by road, no? Only a good person can tell another good person. So, the conclusion is, for me to find that almost-perfect partner, I need to be one myself. InshaAllah I promise I'll be as good a person possible. And no, I won't do it just to find 'that guy' but to gain God's love. Only then can I start appreciate another human's love.

But one of the most important things I got from this book that I'll bring till the day I die is the Prophet PBUH once said,

"Islam started as being different and will end being different too. Thus, blessed are those who are different, who uphold my Sunnah when others are ruining it."

alhamdulillah 'ala kulli hal, i think i have found a right man ;) is in his willingness to see a future with me so that we can help each other nurture our love to Allah inshaAllah...;)

and then he response this to me :

email starts :

"I am happiest since having come accross Nur"

وأما بنعمة ربك فحدث
and this is my reply (10000 words and still counting ;)) :